~ Sex Scenes and What Guys Want ~
An Observation

I have an unfair advantage.
- I have been writing award-winning short erotica since 98 - AND - I work for the Porn industry as an industry journalist.

I have the best of both worlds when is comes to figuring out what the heck turns people on in writing.

Writing erotica for women was not that hard to figure out.

I'm female and I know what turns me on when I read both erotica (Secrets, Black Lace, Hot Blood, the Sleeping Beauty series,) and Romances (Susan Johnson, Beatrice Small, Mary Jo Putney, Katheryn Atwood).

It was as simple as going through the scenes that Really got me hot and bothered and examining exactly how they did it. What did they describe? What words did they use to describe it? What kind of dialogue did they use? What happened first? Next? After? Then I had to figure out: how much story vs. how much sex?

That was the easy part.
Now I had to figure out what turned MEN on.

That meant that I had to uncover their personal sex fantasies and That meant looking for stuff written By men For men.

Did you know that Literary Erotica for Men is Unheard of? Unless your talking Gay Erotica? There's not one erotica book specifically for men! (Unless you count all those magazines.)

According to the guys I asked, they all blushed and told me that they were happy with their magazines and if they wanted to read erotica, they just stole their girlfriends books when she wasn't looking. That was good enough for them, thank you very much.

Thank goodness I work in the porn industry or I would have never known where to look for stories written by guys for their own pleasure. The Porn Story sites.

So, I went slogging through all the really bad porn-story sites to see what guys thought was great. I got lucky, I found Literotica.Com. They were a clean professional site, not ad heavy - or pop-up heavy - and they keep track of who likes what, and how much they like it, with a scoring system.

I started at the top and worked my way down. (Ewwww!)

Every single one of those poorly written porn pieces read like they came out of some high-school gym locker and had never seen the light of day - never mind any kind of pretense to grammar or spelling... The bulk of those early stories looked like someone had typed something straight into the Submit Story box and hit enter, right then and there. Heaven forbid that someone had typed it up in Word and used Spel Chek on it first!

(Keep in mind, this was back in 98 when Literotica was still new. Since then they won't take anything that has not gone through at least one of their volunteer editors.)

There were stories by guys and stories by gals. I read both and made a discovery - Men and women both loved graphic sex stories, but their taste in what they liked - and what they wrote about - and the way they wrote it - was not the same at all.

So, what did guys write about?
What turns them on?

Every last one of those dirty stories went into exquisite and loving detail as to what the girl looked like - down to her toenail polish. They described her eye color, her hair color - and length - her lip color, what expression was on her face and whether or not she was looking at him. They wrote about where her hands were and what part of her body - no matter how small - was in contact with his.

And what it felt like.
And what it tasted like.
And what it smelled like.
And what it sounded like.

Guys don't care what the hero looks like, as long as he's manly and equipped with a big tool kit, but they damn well want to know what she looks like from her cute little toes on up. Long legs, round thighs, juicy and plump fuzzy kitties, broad hips, big round buttocks, soft bellies, narrow waists, bazongers that would feed a man for a week, succulent and moist smiling lips, big eyes and lots of pretty hair they can grab onto. (gasp!)

Guys get off on detailed description.

After reading so much Romance and Erotica where all the sex was just barely hinted at and I had to guess what the heck was going on - it was a real eye opener to see all that loving detail - and so poorly written.

Story? Oh HELL No! Not one drop. Each of those little fantasies started and ended the same exact way - with some cute young thing that walked up to the hero and said: "Hey I think you're hot..."

In all the stories she was hot for his tools and ready for action! Oh yes - guys wanted a girl that wanted him in a big way. It seems that guys want to be seduced as much - if not more so - than women!

Dirty language? You betcha! The raunchier the better. They want to hear just how much she wants him and in how many ways she wants to have him. Continuously. From the beginning of the story to the sweet sighing end he wants to hear the magic words: "Oh yes, Yes! I want you baby, please give it to me... Give it to me now!"

A man's happily ever after? Hoo - boy! Talk about Different!

Guys Don't want commitment in their sex stories, they want to know that the hero (themselves) saved the girl, preferably from loneliness - with sex - that she was really grateful - with sex - and that she left with a smile on her face and a wobble in her walk.

That's what a guy's happily ever after is - the opportunity to be of service, making as many chicks happy and grateful on down the line as he has ink to write with.

It all boils down to:
Guys want to SEE what they're doing.
The more graphic and explicit the descriptions
- the better they like it.
Everything else is gravy.

Cum to think of it... I'm that way too.

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by Morgan Hawke
Monster? I get that a lot..." - Alucard of Hellsing

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Ms. Hawke has been a professional writer since May 2001 writing and publishing numerous, Adult Industry related articles for AEBN.com . Ms. Hawke is also an published author of (recreational) fiction since 1980, and an Erotica author since 1996.